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Have you ever felt like there's a deeper, more authentic version of yourself hiding ‘beneath the surface’? You're not alone as throughout history people have talked about the idea of a "true self" or "core self." It's what some might call the soul.
While modern psychology has explored this concept, it's important to remember that the idea of a "true self" isn't a scientific fact. Instead, think of it as a helpful mental tool to understand ourselves better.
Now, let's talk about the "role self." This is the version of you that acts in ways you've learned are acceptable to others, especially your family as you grew up. You might also have role selves for work or school. Sometimes, these roles can conflict with who you really are inside.
When we spend too much time in our role selves, our bodies might send us warning signals. These can include (but not limited to) feeling sad or anxious (depression), chronic muscle tension, or trouble sleeping.
If you notice these signs and they don't feel right, it might be time to thoughtfully consider making some changes. Living more in line with your true self can lead to greater happiness and fulfillment.
So, how do we find our true selves? It’s an incremental process that starts with being more aware and making choices that ‘feel right’ for us. That's what we're all about at Toward Wellth — creating an environment where you can explore and align authentically with your true self. If you're reading this, you might be someone who's good at handling tough emotions and experiences. Instead of getting defensive, you're probably curious about understanding yourself better.
Here are some tips for connecting with your true self:
Practice self-reflection
Listen to your inner voice (not your inner critic!)
Try new experiences to see what resonates with you
Be open to change and growth
Remember, it's okay to let go of old ideas or behaviors that no longer serve you. As you learn and grow, you can build a new approach to life that better matches who you really are.
Sometimes, talking to a therapist or counselor can help us recognize truths we already know deep down. Sometimes talking to an emotionally mature friend can help you chart a plan to change those ideas for a more positive you. Your journey Toward Wellth is unique, and we're here to support your true self discovery at every step of the way.
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